Black folks, I am going to have to get ugly all up in here! What the hell??!!!
“Pregnant woman executed by her gangland boyfriend for refusing to get an abortion!”
According to the article, Candace Pickens loved being a mother to her three-year old son Zachaeus and she was looking forward to becoming a mother for the second time. Unfortunately, her choice of a partner was her undoing. For the father of her child, she chose a ‘man’ who had a criminal record for domestic violence against another woman who also had a baby by him, not only that but he also had an attempted robbery conviction and in addition to that, it has also been suggested that he was affiliated with a gang.
Now, I could shake my head over Ms. Pickens choice over who she chose to date and have a baby with, but seeing as how the father of her unborn and now dead child, has been charged with their murder, that would be extremely insensitive of me and so I shall just concentrate on the choices we women make when attempting to enter into relationships with men who are absolutely wrong for us in every possible way. It is not only the fact that we know these men are wrong, it would seem that many of us are still into the “I want the bad boy type and yes I know what he did to his other baby mama but he would not do that to me because I am different. I am special.”
Uh, no you’re not! You are just a piece of ass to this type and they will use you and go on to the next, depositing who knows what inside you while impregnating you. And these days, with the explosion of all sorts of STDs that you cannot get rid of, not to mention that Black women in Ms. Pickens age group, statistically speaking, are the new face of AIDS, why are they not better protecting themselves? With information right at our fingertips stating the obvious, we still don’t pay attention and decide that “it’s never going to happen to me. I am the exception and not the rule.”
Newsflash, no matter how special you think you are, to these men, you are not the exception because unfortunately, many Black women have decided that they value themselves so little that they will lie down with a detestable piece of garbage who would shoot his own mama if she crossed him. This misogynistic piece of shit deserves no mercy. Even I would throw the book at his Black ass and never would he see the light of day!
Somewhere along the way, we have failed our daughters and we have failed in producing sons who respect and revere the Black woman. We have failed our daughters in the sense that they don’t even care what they lie down with. They care so little for the health and safety of their bodies that they become a trash receptacle. And Black men, and I use the term loosely, because a ‘MAN’ would never do this to a woman, have veered so far out into left field that many are just too far gone to reach. I look at many Black men today and I just shake my head, AGAIN because I say to myself, “No way! No goddamn way!” If I was that oversexed, I’d head to Dildo Land before I’d take that mess ‘head’ on.The snake that executed this woman also shot her son in the head and left them both for dead. I just cannot imagine that kind of evil. I just cannot.
We are truly lost!
I go on and on about how Black people are the target for racist KKKops, have been disenfranchised, are victims of gentrification, a school-to-prison pipeline, mass incarceration, mass unemployment, homelessness and a litany of other ails and then this comes along and speaks a different language to me. It speaks to me of a weakness that is a growing disease among Black people that cannot be cut out. This is not the first time that this has happened and it will not be the last, unfortunately.
But I am not going to let the shit that Black folks do to each other, slide. When I see shit, I am calling it that and this shit makes no goddamn sense at all. A child who just celebrated his third birthday is in the hospital with his eye shot out by a piece of filth that also killed his mother and what would have been his sibling just because he wanted her to abort his baby.
Excuse me, but he didn’t know how to use a condom? He’d never heard of them? And apparently, dead Ms. Pickens had never heard of them either even though, the article goes on to state that she was attending community college and ultimately wanted to be a nurse.
Now, I could go on and on about how Ms. Pickens failed to get her education first before deciding to have children. I could go on and on about her choices over who she decided to have children with. I could go on and on about saving herself for marriage with the ‘right’ man; a man who will love and cherish her and provide for her, not by engaging in criminal acts but by the sweat of his brow. But what would be the point in that? It obviously falls on deaf ears and blind eyes.
And I know this to be true because Friday, my cousin treated me to lunch at Fogo de Chao and since it was prom night, no parking was available downtown and I had to park the car and take the bus downtown. Lawd have mercy, please! Some Black girl was at the back of the bus, on the phone, just a carrying on. I had to listen to,
“I told that nigga that his bitch called me and I don’t know how she got my number and she contacted me on Facebook and his other baby mama started up some drama with me on Facebook and I told her, bitch, you ain’t getting fucked by him, I am. That nigga know who he come home to at night and why you got a picture of my dog on your Facebook page?”
On and on, it went. I was SO goddamn embarrassed to be Black, it was unreal. From now on, if I must head downtown, I am going to first check and make sure that there is plenty of parking available and no Twins games, etc., because I refuse to subject myself to that shitload of ignorance. I wanted to go to the back of the bus and shoot her in her mouth. The least thing I should have done was pepper sprayed her ass and then stunned her. I probably would have received a standing ovation.
Now I see why what happened to Ms. Pickens is going to continue. Young Black girls of today have no respect for themselves or for the children they have with these punks who lie down with them, deposit their seed and then it is on to the next. And we wonder why the younger generation is so fucked up. I don’t. Twenty-five minutes on a bus told the story.
And now, a young woman who had her life ahead of her, lies dead and her young son is in a hospital, fighting for his life. Her unborn child is dead and the father of her unborn child is charged with their murder. Who do we blame for this?
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Now, my response to that.
I do understand that many people believe that prostitution should be legal since it has been proclaimed as “the oldest profession in the world,” but be that as it may, with what is going down today, what with the ‘incurable clap’, AIDS, herpes, genital warts and the list is endless, continuing to justify prostitution and ALL things of a sexual nature as being fine and dandy is, in my opinion, not the best way to go about empowering people.
Is anybody aware of the statistics of sex workers who are filled with STDs? My cousin went to a doctor’s office in Baltimore, MD and he told me that there was a bulletin board up with multiple vaginas on it, all from Black females, and the vaginas were loaded down with the most horrible stuff he’d ever seen. It was meant to encourage people to take their health seriously and to understand that there are plenty of gross and nasty disease riddled people out there who are just spreading diseases around. I asked him if there was a bulletin board set up showcasing what infected dicks looked like and he said “No.” The concentration seems to be on what the woman’s infected vaginas look like so that men, if they see that nasty looking shit, should steer clear of it.
I would rather starve to death than take up prostitution and believe me, I have starved. Poverty is damn near every American descendant of slaves, birthright. If no one on this planet knows poverty, we do. And when my apartment burned to the ground, I was homeless and walked by two men after having left my burned out shell of an apartment with the few items I could find that hadn’t been burned beyond hope and both looked at me and one said, “I know you’ve got nothing since you’ve just been burned out. How about coming upstairs with us and make a little money?” Their fucking ears are still ringing and that was so long ago, it ain’t even fucking funny! I cussed their damn asses out SO goddamn bad, I blushed! But NEVER did I EVER think so little of myself as to lie back and have some sort of ‘sex’ with strange assholes for something to eat. I’d take myself to a soup kitchen first.
And AGAIN, to state that prostituting oneself is okay if you need to put food on the table for your kids is just what I’ve stated, a cop-out because who is going to put food on the table for the kids when the mother is in the hospital, breathing her last because of complications from AIDS? This shit out there is killing people and to encourage prostitution in this day and age is to give someone a death sentence. This shit ain’t fucking playing with our asses! Who in hell wants to walk around with jelly bumps on their private parts? Who wants cauliflower type shit on their private parts? And if you said, “Yes!” Really?
When I lived in Minnesota, in the public library, I overheard a conversation whereas this woman was telling a man that she HAD genital warts but that she was cured. I’m saying to myself, “Bitch, please! You still got genital warts. There ain’t no cure for THAT shit!” People are seriously deluding themselves if they think that the shit they pick up can be cured with a shot of penicillin.
What I don’t understand is why are we hell bent on making every sex act including sodomy; legitimate, lawful, legal and some more shit? What the fuck is wrong with us? No one has any morals, decency, principles or values any more. That is quite obvious. More’s the goddamn pity!
But hey! If you want to go out there and put your health at risk as a way to feed your kids, go right ahead. If you want to risk your health and that of your unborn child, go right ahead because babies have been born with diseases because the mother received no prenatal care and the baby was born, fucked up. Go ahead and make every excuse in the book as to why prostitution should be legalized on a nationwide level. We are already about to legalize weed on a national level and so we can all just cough our lungs out while burning something awful in our private parts and die happily ever after. Sound good? Of course it does because that is what everyone besides me wants!